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#1
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Last post by prime - Sep 09, 2026, 03:34 PM
QuoteSome of the ideas now being applied to couples were originally developed to study changes in animal populations. Malthusian models and predator-prey equations, for example, have been used to examine the spread of Australian rabbits and the shifting populations of Canadian lynxes and snowshoe hares.

Another important idea is the Allee effect, which describes what happens when a population drops below a critical level. Below that threshold, survival becomes much more difficult. Above it, the population has a better chance of growing and remaining stable.

Researchers have found that a similar threshold concept can be useful when thinking about romantic relationships...Each relationship may have a critical threshold representing the minimum level of relationship strength needed for the bond to remain stable.

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2026/09/260906170140.htm
#2
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Last post by sub rosa - Sep 08, 2026, 07:20 PM
"The researchers call this feeling "Q," a general factor representing overall relationship sentiment."

The Holistic paradigm strikes again.
"Hell, Yes!" vs. ... disjointed stuff sewn together for practical purpose. 
#3
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Last post by prime - Sep 08, 2026, 05:30 PM
QuoteA new study finds that dozens of supposedly distinct relationship survey questions, covering trust, intimacy, communication, and more, are mostly capturing one general feeling about whether the relationship is good or bad.

Across two studies with over 3,400 U.S. adults, that single feeling explained the vast majority of shared variation across 34 common relationship measures.

Sexual satisfaction was the one area that stood somewhat apart from this general feeling; trust, commitment, love, and forgiveness were largely absorbed by it.

https://studyfinds.com/relationship-surveys-measuring-same-feeling/

DRI - "Gone Too Long"
Kraftwerk - "The Telephone Call"
#4
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Last post by prime - Sep 08, 2026, 05:08 AM
QuoteAlongside posts about the heavier moments, she also shares lessons learned and more optimistic musings. She has posted about wanting to reconnect with the confident, curious person she was more than a decade ago — before she met her now-former husband. She's revisiting passions she had as a teen, including skateboarding and learning to DJ.

"I wanted to show my kids that you can still be strong even through these hard days. I wanted to show them how strong hope is," she said. "I feel more confident. I feel resilient. I feel like I faced my fears of showing up scared, of putting myself out there as my authentic self."

On TikTok, where niche categories of content sometimes earn a nickname, content that delves into marital woes has been dubbed "divorce-tok."

https://abcnews.com/Technology/wireStory/divorce-tok-fills-social-media-creators-find-audiences-136264428

So the Martian Slut Ray is actually just individualism...

QuoteHamilton has explained how her husband led what she called a "double life" with another partner

Sounds like a story I read once.
#5
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Last post by prime - Sep 06, 2026, 03:51 PM
It's a law blog, so they tend to focus on that alone. Trading up would be easier, but is impeded by divorce laws requiring a 50/50 split. People who cheat tend to be sociopaths or at least very individualistic, so it makes sense to get them "into the system" as early as possible.
#6
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Last post by sub rosa - Sep 06, 2026, 01:49 PM
On the above.

Crazy take. There are no "analogous scenarios."

Equates humans with merchandise. Ignores individual autonomy and agency (natural state, not a "right"), treats people as inanimate objects to be 'stolen,' regards marriage as exclusively societal "infrastructure" to NOT be 'demolished' no matter how precarious; ignores Natural Selection and the reality that the individual acts in self-interest first so they can contribute to the well-being of others as well as the transcendental (All is fair / Love-War etc).
Treats formal marriage, including mis-marriage and bad marriage, as the ultimate good, therefore perverting Transcendentalism by default.

The third party may make an offer if they believe it can lead to better outcomes overall. The autonomy and agency of the others involved get activated. Yay, nay. Out of such interactions, instantiations emerge and re-emerge to fit Form.  Organicism vs. "Structural-Functionalism."

The legal case mentioned is an embarrassment. 'Love and affection' alienated with a few sex sessions?
This try-hard 'Conservatism' would probably not try so hard in matters of Colonialism.
         
#7
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Last post by prime - Sep 06, 2026, 10:54 AM
QuoteIn the discussion of the Kyrsten Sinema alienation of affections case, several commenters took roughly the following view: Spouses have promised fidelity to each other, and if they break those promises, they are at fault towards the other spouse. But one spouse's lover hasn't made any promises to the other spouse. The lover therefore can't be said to be at fault.

I don't think that view is right, and I don't think it fits the norm for how our legal system treats analogous scenarios. I think that on balance the abolition of the alienation of affections tort (which has happened in 45 states) is a good idea. But not for the reason that "the lover isn't at fault, only the spouses are."

Rather, alienation of affections is analogous to complicity liability. If Alan commits an intentional wrong against Betty, either a crime or a tort, and Cathy encourages Alan to do that, Cathy is generally liable. The term sometimes used for this is "solicitation," though sometimes it's seen as a form of aiding and abetting.

https://reason.com/volokh/2026/09/06/alienation-of-affections-as-complicity/
#8
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Last post by prime - Sep 05, 2026, 07:59 PM
Entitlement is the curse of egalitarian systems.

I suspect these women simply had mental health problems AND their husbands were oblivious.

The second part is the one that will haunt you. But, before it does, remember that no one can fix crazy except with a bullet.
#9
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Last post by sub rosa - Sep 04, 2026, 11:40 AM
Quote from: prime on Sep 04, 2026, 09:36 AM
QuoteA Las Vegas man allegedly killed his girlfriend and her two kids after she admitted cheating on him, claiming he "blacked out" before launching his deadly rampage.

Orona said he confronted Flores-Osuna at an apartment complex in west Las Vegas after he spotted her car near the vehicle of her ex-boyfriend, identified only as "Henry," earlier Tuesday, according to an arrest report obtained by the outlet.

Flores-Osuna allegedly admitted she had been unfaithful to him and told Orona that her ex-boyfriend was "better in bed," he told police.

https://nypost.com/2026/09/04/us-news/las-vegas-man-juan-orona-allegedly-killed-girlfriend-her-2-kids-in-blackout-rage-after-she-admitted-cheating/

So what?

Q: What does this man, Lindsay Clancy, the prison population, and basically anyone dead-ending (no-pun) in similar outcomes have in common, regardless of background 'conditions' and circumstantial whatever?
 
A: A lethal combo of Low-to-No Impulse Control (A) and a Sense of Entitlement (B) to things being something other than what they are, which can send  someone into psychosis at an extreme. And while it is often correct that things SHOULD indeed be other than what they are (such as 'btch NOT cheating,' or Scandies not being lefties, talking to you, Andres, etc), and that changing circumstances and the bigger picture is worth a fair - or very smart! - fight (will to power), the person simply cannot cope with the reality that "things are NOT what they should be," which basically feeds back into A. 

In sum: A + B.

 
#10
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Last post by prime - Sep 04, 2026, 09:36 AM
QuoteA Las Vegas man allegedly killed his girlfriend and her two kids after she admitted cheating on him, claiming he "blacked out" before launching his deadly rampage.

Orona said he confronted Flores-Osuna at an apartment complex in west Las Vegas after he spotted her car near the vehicle of her ex-boyfriend, identified only as "Henry," earlier Tuesday, according to an arrest report obtained by the outlet.

Flores-Osuna allegedly admitted she had been unfaithful to him and told Orona that her ex-boyfriend was "better in bed," he told police.

https://nypost.com/2026/09/04/us-news/las-vegas-man-juan-orona-allegedly-killed-girlfriend-her-2-kids-in-blackout-rage-after-she-admitted-cheating/