Divorce, cheating, and infidelity fiction

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I want you to think about me and your mother. Look at us. I've been married to her for seventeen years, and not a day goes by that I regret it. You and her are the most precious things I have, and my life would be empty without you in it. I love her just as much as I did when I saw her in her wedding dress. She is my everything. Things haven't always been easy between us. After all, I'm nine years older than her. The age difference makes it somewhat tough for us at times. We struggle, we fight, but we've always made it through. She knows that I'm not going anywhere. After it's all said and done, we each know that we have a lifelong partner in the other. Nothing is going to split us apart. I won't let it. Neither will she. Trust me son, you want that.

https://www.literotica.com/s/standing-at-the-cliff

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This one explicitly links casual sex, jealousy, and cheating:

Sheila chose the afterglow of one of our love-making sessions to tell me an amusing little anecdote about her former boyfriend, James. It seems he decided to cook dinner naked after Sheila and he had made love. The prep in the kitchen involved chopping up some fresh red chilli peppers, then he went to the toilet. Sheila smiled as she recalled how he yelled with pain and she had to get ice from the freezer to help cool down his burning member.

The details of the story were not particularly shocking or even titillating. But something changed. I had been given a brief glimpse into the intimacy of Sheila's previous relationship and it was as if a switch flicked in my brain. I became fixated on her romantic history. It was all in the past and had happened well before I met Sheila, but I was unaccountably angry and jealous.

https://www.literotica.com/s/retro

High costs of no-fault divorce:

A Kentucky father has admitted to faking his death to avoid paying his ex-wife more than $100,000 in outstanding child support and is facing serious jail time for the elaborate ruse.

Kipf admitted to completing a Hawaii Death Certificate Worksheet in Jan. 2023, where he created a fake death certificate for himself and "assigned himself as the medical certifier for the case and certified that case."

https://nypost.com/2024/04/07/us-news/kentucky-dad-jesse-kipf-faked-his-own-death-to-avoid-paying-more-than-100k-in-child-support-faces-lengthy-jail-time/

Including REDRUM, which probably peaked during the COVID-19 fake pandemic panic:

Becky Bliefnick was discovered dead in her Illinois home one afternoon earlier this year. Her bedroom door had been kicked open, and the nurse and mother of three was on the bathroom floor. She'd been shot 14 times.

Her husband, a star college football player and well-known local salesman who once appeared on "Family Feud" and described saying "I do" as the biggest mistake someone could make at their wedding, was convicted of her murder in May.

https://www.nbcnews.com/news/us-news/-tim-bliefnick-becky-family-feud-murder-rcna123260

She sounds like a delusional votard. When the courts give everything to the woman, they give the man an incentive to light 'er up.

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At the core of our existential question is our biological question:

Every animal is on this planet for one reason. To have babies. As a species, we've learned to walk upright, have multi-thousand-word lexicons, and be so sophisticated that we can elect absolute morons to rule over us, but, at heart, we're still animals. Nowhere in nature is there a job description, 'grandmother', or 'grandfather'. Humans, like all creatures, need a reason to live.

https://www.literotica.com/s/dave-and-the-gloryhole

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It's not uncommon for the cheaters to retaliate against the victim for noticing:

Gavin Harper, 45, said acting Inspector Andrew McLullich and his estranged wife Pc Stephanie Glynn started punching and kicking him when he discovered their affair.

Harper is on trial accused of stalking his wife and wounding married Mr McLullich during the confrontation, in February 2021.

But today he told the jury that he only punched Mr McLullich 'three or four times' in self-defence. And he claimed the couple, who both worked for Merseyside police, assaulted him when they realised he was filming their sexual encounter on his mobile phone and feared they would lose their jobs.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13215817/Police-constable-caught-inspector-having-sex-wife-Screwfix-car-park-s-t-kicked-couple-confronted-court-told.html

The ones who do not fly into a rage are the ones who get away with murder:

David Lukey, an aerospace engineer, flew into a rage when he returned to the family home to find wife Andrea half-dressed and evidence of another man in the house.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13209045/Husband-wife-affairs-snapped-punched-rugby-player-lover.html

When we add up all the numbers in the future, it will turn out that no-fault divorce led to an epic number of murders.

If you catch your wife cheating, turn off her phone, pack her bags including toiletries and important paperwork, then suffocate her and put her into her car and then push the car into a lake with her bags and phone. Then tell some gossip that she left you and you have no idea where she was going. The word will spread, and by the time anyone thinks to start looking for her, no one will care.

I think a lot of Boomers killed their spouses during COVID-19. All you needed was a positive test and the panicked neurotics would incinerate the corpse without checking for signs of murder.

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Normies can't make decisions, so they wait for an excuse and then rationalize:

I should have stopped it before it went too far, but my selfishness and hubris overrode my rational thinking, and I fell into a stupid affair. Yes, he seduced me, but I let it happen.

https://www.literotica.com/s/long-term-affair-consequences

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They mention narcissism/codependency:

Forcing someone to be good is not what we should want in life. You do not have the same love for me that I had for you because when I loved you, it was self-less, as my desire was always what I could do for you rather than what love can do for me. Your narcissism and selfishness did not permit that love.

https://www.literotica.com/s/breaching-a-partnership

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No-fault divorce gives women financial incentive to cheat:

Republican pundits and lawmakers have been pushing back on the availability of no-fault divorce, challenging the idea that not being in love is a valid reason to end a marriage.

https://phys.org/news/2024-03-americans-fault-divorce-marriage.html

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Final diagnosis: these are abused children. Who else fears confrontation? Only those whose parents beat them down and refused to instill confidence in them.

I hate confrontation. I always have. I avoid it like the plague. If I dislike someone, I avoid them. I cut them out of my life. It works pretty well. Occasionally, I can't avoid a person, but usually, I can. I'm like that because my parents yelled and screamed at each other for years instead of getting divorced. If I have to confront or fight someone, I will, but only if there is no other option.

https://www.literotica.com/s/jim-and-bonnie-and-julie

It takes an extreme transgression to bring these people to the point of conflict and then they flip/invert. What was once passive becomes active, to the point of being murderous. Abuse a dog and it will take it until it has no option, and then it will bite. These stories, like the conservative-themed action adventure movies where the protagonist sees his family killed before he will act, are designed to convince the abused child that he can flip and be justified in doing so.

I started reading these as an analysis of a literary trope that somehow popped up on writing about sex, and now believe I have found a group of people confessing their abuse stories to one another through a subconscious language that they can all understand without consciously admitting that this is what is occurring.

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Abused child behavior?

I folded down into the tub and sobbed like an abandoned child until the hot water turned cold.

https://www.literotica.com/s/cheating-wife-but-so-much-fixed?page=3

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Binary solutions: be with a traitor, or have the possibility of something new?

Divorce doesn't have to only be heartbreak, custody battles and bitter ex-spouses. Experts explain how you can work toward building something new in the wake.

https://www.ctvnews.ca/lifestyle/the-bright-side-of-divorce-according-to-experts-1.6816237

People without purpose (narcissists, solipsists, individualists, Communists, and Christians are this) will use you for their own ends:

Of course, her reply was to be expected. "I don't want a divorce."

My response had been thought about and prepared for six months. "Of course not. You want me to be the guy who pays for this house, mows the yard weekly, cleans the pool daily, and buys the groceries as you are far too busy to be bothered by such mundane trivialities. Add to the fact that you don't have to provide even pity sex to your husband, since it has been months since you have allowed me even a glance at your body or allowed even a token touch, then I understand why you don't want a divorce."

https://www.literotica.com/s/remember-when-10

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They always know, even if they cannot articulate it at the time:

It appears to be a message to a departed loved one as it begins 'For My Love'.

The inscription was spotted on a bench in Royal York Crescent in the Clifton area of the city this morning.

The full message reads: 'For My Love. 06.09.69 - 25.12.23. Husband, Father, Adulterer. Yes, Roger, I knew.'

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13227611/bristol-plaque-bench-roger-adulterer.html

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Meatsuit people:

Visually, nothing was different. It was a familiar, even intimate tableau that screamed of normalcy. However, under the comfortable and familiar exterior - the camouflage layer - nothing was the same. The Maria I'd married, loved, impregnated, comforted, nursed through sickness, and pledged my love, my life, and my loyalty to was gone.

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-talk-leads-to-explosive-end

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A couple cheaters:

Just two years ago, Paul Browning, 37, was living the perfect suburban family life with his wife Jo Browning, 32 and their young daughter in leafy Abergavenny in South Wales.

Terry, 56, who was best man at Gordon Ramsay's wedding and is a well known TV chef on programmes like Great British Menu, was also having an affair under the nose of his wife Jo Terry, 54, who Paul says has been left in the same lurch as him.

Paul said: 'My wife came clean about the affair in May last year. She actually only came clean after Stephen Terry's daughters had seen her name pop up on their dad's phone and she knew that I was going to be told. '

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13118531/My-wife-left-Gordon-Ramsays-best-man-knew-marriage-went-Paris-Jilted-lover-claims-hes-financially-crippled-divorce-ex-enjoys-luxury-trips-TV-chef-Stephen-Terry.html

The secret tracking device (GPS) comes out:

A policewoman was caught having sex with a married inspector in the backseat of his car in a Screwfix car park by her estranged husband who then battered his love rival with a torch, a court heard.

Liverpool Crown Court heard Harper had followed the couple to the car park after allegedly placing a secret tracking device underneath his wife's car.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13188563/estranged-husband-police-officer-wife-car-screwfix-married-inspector.html

The Martian zombie slut ray is real:

The anonymous man, who is from the UK, shared on Reddit that whilst his wife had phoned him on tears during her girls trip to confess she'd had sex with a man 10 years her junior the night before.

Despite her remorse and immediately coming clean, he revealed he is 'not even considering forgiving her'.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-13126709/Wife-cheated-younger-man-forgive-guilty.html

And the deception is profound:

There are two sides to me, and they're  diametrically opposed: one is a devoted wife and mother who loves her family very much; the other, a sexually voracious woman who is addicted to the thrill of sleeping with someone new.

Andrew and I have been married for 20 years. I've been unfaithful to him eight times during the past 14 of them. As far as I'm aware, my husband doesn't know about any of these other men.

But even if our marriage was distant and sexless, it still wouldn't be his fault that I stray. It's a choice I make despite knowing that if he or Abigail, 18, were ever to find out, it would break their hearts. I feel guilty, but not enough to stop.

I sleep with other men purely for the frisson of excitement it injects into an otherwise ordinary, and perfectly tolerable, life.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-13239841/I-love-husband-Im-addicted-having-sex-strangers-Shes-devoted-wife-mother-utterly-unrepentant-having-eight-affairs-20-year-marriage.html

Sexual ostracism also factors in:

I'd lost count of the times I'd rebuffed his sexual advances, closed my bedroom door on him and shut down any conversation around our love life.

Graham and I were having sex only once every two years, if that, and we'd made love maybe five times over the previous decade.

I was the breadwinner, working on the front desk of the local leisure centre while Graham ran the house and home-schooled our children.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-13248349/Meet-woman-says-fault-husband-cheated-agreed-sex-two-years.html

And loverboy is usually a scam:

No, these are real men, our age or older, who see a well-off wife as a ticket not only to fun, but to a very comfortable old age with their feet beneath our well-laden tables.

They see us as a catch, but also as women of a certain age who will fall at their feet once shown some attention – hence their confidence (and, as Nadine has discovered, some of these men can be very forthright indeed).

Dressed in old jeans and a scruffy jacket, aged about 70, within minutes of our meeting, he asked whether I'd ever consider getting married again. The 'date', if that's what it was, did not last much longer. Later I discovered that this international financier and publisher was living in a bedsit on the coast. After two divorces, he had hardly any money left.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13245801/real-reason-older-men-proposition-later-life-women-no-think-sexy-liz-hodgkinson.html

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One of Sowell's/Coase's tradeoffs:

You love yourself more than you love me. You had an opportunity to do something that you never thought you'd have the opportunity to do so you took advantage of it. You didn't think about the costs or consequences because you were getting something that you valued more.

https://www.literotica.com/s/february-sucks-goodbye-jim

How high the social cost of casual sex, no-fault divorce, and infidelity?

But rumors surrounding the incident still swirl today, with some speculating the disaster was in fact a murder-suicide triggered by a sordid squabble after one of the crew members engaged in an affair with another's wife.

Indeed, one report claims that the man responsible for the explosion had received a phone call from his wife asking for a divorce just minutes earlier - while the co-worker accused of sleeping with his wife was later found pinned to the ceiling directly above the blown reactor.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13271859/mystery-america-nuclear-disaster-idaho-love-triangle-murder-suicide.html

Rebonding/reimprinting:

The Marriage Foundation found that, for those who were still together by the time their child was 14, having had date nights at any stage of parenthood 'significantly increased' the likelihood of them reporting that they were 'very happy' with their relationship.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13279593/date-nights-save-marriage-avoid-divorce.html

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The crisis of casual sex: it is detachment from life.

I never lost the mindset that sex with random men was fun but didn't really mean anything. It required no emotional investment.

https://www.literotica.com/s/all-my-loving-1?page=3